Frequently Asked Questions:
Why the name Trophy Mom Diaries?
How many children do you have?
Why do you have such a large family?
Why do you homeschool your children?
How is parenting an adopted child different from your biological children?
Why the name Trophy Mom Diaries?
I am the 2nd wife to a man 15 years older than me. Technically that makes me a “Trophy Wife.” As wonderful as my life is, it’s also a little bit crazy. My close friends are rarely surprised by the weird things that happen to me or that I end up doing or trying. Like the time I tried to become the underground coupon queen (2003). Yeah, that ended badly. As a joke when things would get crazy either I (or one of my friends) would say some version of, “I thought I was supposed to be the Trophy Wife?” Because seriously, Trophy Wives are supposed to sit by the pool eating bon-bons while being waited on by Cabana Boys with ripped abs, aren’t they? They don’t homeschool, do laundry at midnight, or have to deal with escaping meal worms from Science projects gone bad. In other words, Trophy Wives don’t have it as good as Trophy Moms.
I love being a Mom. It is my absolute dream come true. But that doesn’t mean I don’t like a bit of glamor and girly fun too!
How many children do you have?
We are blessed to have 5 children, 3 girls and twin boys. Four of our children came through the blessing of IVF and 1 through the miracle of adoption. All are gifts from God.
Why do you have such a large family?
We love children and enjoy being parents. We can afford the children we have and think children are the ultimate blessing in life.
Why do you homeschool your children?
The short version is: We are a homeschooling family that could afford private school, but we choose to homeschool because we want to. For the longer version visit our homeschool blog, Passport Academy.
How is parenting an adopted child different from your biological children?
The actual parenting of our children isn’t different based on biology but certainly their stories are very different. We adopted Little Sister (AKA Bean) when she was 12 weeks old. We missed out on her first 12 weeks of life, have no birth story to share with her and have no pictures of her from that time. During her first 90-days with us we faced the agony of almost losing our daughter and not being able to finalize her adoption. I would say I felt most vulnerable about parenthood with Bean, the idea that a court or social worker could decide she couldn’t be our daughter was something we’ve never had to go through before with our biological children. I recall feeling very vulnerable her first year. Other than that, everything else is the same. I enjoy learning more about her as her personality and interests develop—-just like any child.