Sometimes I worry that I’m over-thinking adoption.
Worrying about things will never happen, or be felt.
Reading too many books and not just living by faith.
I don’t want to parent Baby Sister differently than her older (biological) siblings.
I want to glorify God through her amazing testimony, but I don’t want to constantly point out she is adopted.
…but I don’t want to act like it’s a secret or something to be ashamed of either.
I worry that she will resent being adopted.
I worry that her birth parents will resent me.
I worry her birth parents will drop off the face of the earth and I worry that one day something will happen that will make me wish they would.
I worry I should read more books on adoption.
I worry I read too many books and blogs about adoption.
I really hope I’m just over thinking adoption.
enjoyed it? please share >
0
0
0
000
Gotcha Day: One year later
Questioning Adoption
Adoption: What I’ve learned 2 years later
National Adoption Month
Everything to me
Contemplating Open Adoption
First of all…HUGS to you. You've been through the ringer over the past few weeks.
Everything that you are feeling is normal. It will pass. I am a mother by adoption and so was my mother. Our family was a mix of bio and adoption. I am sure if you remember back to your first child you had many doubts and questions then too. Just love and enjoy…it will work out. You can't tell if your baby will grow to have adoption issues just like you can't tell if your bio children will grow up and have some other issue. Just turn it over to the Lord and enjoy the gift he has given you. He lets these questions come to you and he will show you the answers.
🙂 Congratulations!
A good friend once told me that worry is the antithesis of faith. It's in our human nature to worry, I think in a sense to allow us to press deeper into Christ's arms. I found this article that has a lot of scripture to encourage you in your worry. http://www.christiananswers.net/q-eden/anxiety.html
I hope it helps bring comfort when your mind goes to that place.
Also, in regards to raising your adoptive daughter, there is no need to worry there. Your deep love for all your children is so apparent. God calls us to love Him and love others. You are already walking in that calling, what a lovely heart you have!
I don't think I can say whether or not you are overthinking things. But just that you worry about worrying? That might be a reason to pause and ponder.
Don't let your fears and worries take you away from enjoying this gift that God has given you! You KNOW that God has orchestrated the events up to now. Trust Him and toss those worries (and those books!) aside.
In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me. -Psalm 56:11
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. -John 14:27
The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?
Though an host should encamp against me, my heart shall not fear; though war should rise against me, in this will I be confident. -Psalm 27:1,3
I've been there and done that. And Satan still tries to rob me of His peace with worry from time to time.
Praying for your peace. And trusting in this Kingdom assignment called Motherhood that he has equipped you for with the blessing of BOTH bio and adopted children of God.
Love & Blessings from Hong Kong,
Kim
Oh, Karin. I'd like to embrace you and encourage you with the love of Christ. I admire you for honestly sharing your heart. Rest in Him and know that you are where you are for such a time as this. For however long you have your baby, and for that matter, any one of your children, has been destined by God and orchestrated to bring Him glory. Rest in Faith knowing that He has placed your children with you, and none else, for what you will allow Him to bring to them through you. You can do this, for we can do all things through Christ. Hold fast to His unending love. Remember, and I'm sure you know this, He loves your children more than you. Allow that to comfort instead of provoke worry. Nothing comes to you or your children without being filtered through our Daddy's hands. Focus on the day, each moment and rejoice in all the small moments. Verbally and consciously praise Him even through worry and pain. Miracles will happen – whether in you, around you, or both. Trust, let go of knowing what is to come and continue in your ministry to your lovely family. Praying for you here in Florida.
I'm kind of new at commenting on the blogs and such and don't know how to leave a name when this comment posts. My name is Stacey. I too am a homeschooling mom of 3, with an immense desire to adopt sibling groups.
Thank you for your honesty and openess. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one struggling with these same worries!