Disclaimer:Do not worry about our family. We have our daughter. This post was what I wrote when we were in the middle of potentially losing her. I wanted to share it because I think there are nuggets that might be helpful to others…
I want to write passionately about adoption, particularly about our personal adoption journey. However, at the moment, I’d have to first scrape myself up off the highway because I feel as if I’ve gotten run over by a Mack truck.
Forget all the things you’ve carefully considered about your adoption plan. When you are holding the child you believed was yours in your arms, what lines will you cross then?
I never wanted to become one of those adoptive parents. The ones the birth mothers talk about on their blogs. The ones that lie. Make promises they never intend to keep. Our promises to our daughter’s birth mother were (and are) sacred. Etched in my heart. Made carefully.
Do I believe our daughter’s birth father had a right to meet us? YES. I believe birth parents have a right to choose the adoptive families they are relinquishing their parental rights to. However, I think that should have happened well before she was placed with us and we were told we were her parents. Well before our children met their new baby sister.
Well before I held her in my arms and knew I would die for this child.
Now, instead of meeting a birth father about a child we may potentially adopt, we are meeting with a birth father about the daughter we stand to lose. Those who oppose adoption may say that is what we deserve.
I want so very much to praise Him in the midst of the unknown. I want to. I just don’t know if I can.
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Just joining in? You can catch up from the beginning, here:
Waiting
God’s Perfect Timing
Placed into my arms
when children contemplate adoption
The real reason, revealed (my first post about standing to lose our daughter)
Meeting my daughter’s birth father
I worry about overthinking adoption
Gotcha Day—Baby Sister’s adoption is finalized!
Adoption is complicated: part II
Life Lessons & Surprises in our adoption journey
I’m no longer drinking the adoption Kool-Aid
MarshaMarshaMarsha says
Did you really run into many that are opposed to adoption? The thought of opposing it just boggles my mind!
I am so thankful that God brought your family together, Karin!