After much prayer and research we have decided to pursue a domestic infant adoption.
No matter how a couple chooses to grow their family, it seems that someone will always find fault.
Say you would only like to have one child and you’ll hear about how every child should have a sibling.
If you have more than 2 children and desire more, someone will tell you that you have enough children, ask if you are crazy, ask why you don’t adopt a child that is already here, etc.
If you decide to adopt Internationally they’ll ask, “Why didn’t you want to adopt a child from our country?”
If you adopt domestically someone will say its a shame you didn’t save a poor child in Africa.
And if you choose to pursue a domestic infant adoption someone will ask, ” What about the kids in Foster Care? Can’t you adopt one or two of them?”
And so I say this: My heart breaks for children who do not have parents to raise them. Whether it be from abuse, poverty, neglect or simply a desire from their birth parents to offer them something more than their circumstances allow.
Any child placed for adoption is in need of a parent and is equally deserving of a chance to grow up with love and security.
If a couple chooses to adopt an infant, toddler or teenager; whether domestically or internationally, they have decided to take on a CHILD, an additional family member, NOT A CHARITY CASE. People who choose to adopt are not SAINTS, they are just parents who have looked beyond biological connection and sometimes disability, age and race in order to grow their family. Many feel specifically called to adopt. Some just felt called towards a specific child.
A child that is adopted is not forever more indebted to their parents for adopting them. They are no different than a child who is born into a family. They are a blessing to their family.
And I firmly believe that the child that God will lead us to, will be nothing more than a blessing, just as the 4 children He blessed us with already are.
I’ve said it before, I don’t believe a person can be Pro Life without being Pro Adoption. I’ve personally felt the desire to adopt for some time and I’ve even spent time questioning adoption with my friends and my husband. As a couple we’ve prayed about it and we’ve researched our decision. My husband did not intially feel the call, but after much prayer he says he felt a complete peace.
We believe that there is a child that God intends to place in our family and we are putting Him in control of our lives and that decision. Our arms are stretched wide and our hearts are ready to receive the blessing He promises.
I don’t have the answers. I’m just trying to follow God and raise my family. It’s not a political statement, but I suppose it is a Christian one.