Sometimes it happens when you least expect it. you go to your computer for a quick check of your email or your Facebook account and you find the exact opposite of what you were expecting or looking for.
Where you were craving connection, encouragement, friendship or just a mindless distraction you instead got a double dose of vengeance, envy, accusations, slander and a slew of bible verses pointing out the splinter in your eye (and leaving out the obvious plank in your accusers).
While your local news media may advertise the rise of bullies in school and a society that is breeding “mean girls” not much has been said about the Christian women who go around perpetuating high school. The mommies groups that thrive on judgment and alienation. The homeschool communities that seek to break down others with a few well placed eye rolls, and hushed whispers.
When you come under vicious attack it is tempting to lash back out. Frankly, after you’ve been attacked enough you learn a few mean phrases to throw back out. I would be lying if I didn’t admit that I’ve fought back and felt good about it. There, I said it. It felt good to defend myself and break down another, and yet it is the exact opposite of what I teach my children.
“Just because someone is mean to you doesn’t mean you can be mean to them.”
Unless, err, you’re me?
Consider it pure joy my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish it’s work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.James 1:2-5
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Sometimes the places we go to where we think we will be lifted up the most, are the one's that leave us feeling empty.
I have no idea why women feel the need to tear eachother down rather than build each other up …
Much love to you on this Monday.
Sure your had a wonderful mothers day with your brood – happy thoughts and hugs to you xxx
i wish i knew the answer to this. i would have had a much better attitude when facing it myself over the last couple of weeks. if we would all just realize we are all in this together – for one purpose – {HIS purpose!} – what a team we would be!
momma-drama exhausts me.
praying for you today, sweetie –
keep shining! xo
It is unfortunate that women do these things. We each have our own walk with Christ and have to answer to Him for our past and current issues – and we ALL have them. It doesn't help to put each other down. We need to stand together. This is one of Satan's easiest ways to attach because “a house divided will not stand”. When women can stand together and encourage each other without our own selfish motives getting in the way, then we will be able to accomplish miraculous things.
I love your heart, K, and and I treasure your friendship. (((BIG hug)))
when i am under attack, there are usually lies involved. not always being said by others, but lies in my head. i have to constantly refocus and think on TRUTH (philippians 4:8).
love you, my precious friend!
Well now you got me all curious as to who, where, when, and what you are talking about!
Girl, everyone needs to stick up for themselves once in a while!
My friend De, who's child is in the hospital, was attacked on facebook for believing in God and having faith. Like seriously attacked (with words) by an athiest.
She's my best friend and even I don't believe what she believes in but that is not reason to attack a person! Especially about having faith in God that her son will heal!
Sheesh, now you got me goin!
Such a competitions between moms its so sad! Kids are going to follow what they do not what they say. And they will get theirs one day. I'm sorry!
I'm the same way, when I'm attacked I'm very vulnerable and feel lousy for days sometimes even weeks. I really don't want the other person to win, knowing they have caused me sadness by what they said to me but by nature I'm a very sensitive and passionate person.
The only way I've been able to recover after situations like this is seek God's word, just as you do. I soak it up like a dry sponge needing water. It also never hurts to call my best friend and tell her how I feel. She never judges me, just listens and hugs me.
I think jealousy is the root of most attacks by other women, even christian women. I, too, feel like I'm suffering from a spiritual attack that has left me demoralized. Stay strong and know there's many of us that love what you do.
This is a very interesting & serious subject that really touches my heart. I seriously feel attacked by everyone around me including my own husband & “spiritual” friends (another couple). They've been married 11 yrs & feel that the reason me & my husband's marriage (of only 1 yr) is shaken & can't move forward OR HAVE A BABY is because of ME!! And it's mainly THE WOMAN!-And my husband takes their side! A lot of talk downs & competition-based conversations and I'm really ready to call this marriage & this friendship a quits… I've been attacked my entire life & still deal with these pains, and the only ppl in my life right now are attacking me like I'm the only imperfect person… But I'm so glad that God doesn't see or love us the way people do, but the feeling is very hurtful… :'(